musings

On Living a Quiet Life

Life is about priorities.

My priorities consist of maintaining my mental health, my physical health, and being a good wife, dog mom, daughter, sister, granddaughter and friend. My life revolves around my family and friends. For the most part, it is a quiet life.

I live in a medium-sized city with my husband. We recently had to put our dog, who was an older mutt, to sleep, and are now fostering to adopt a new dog, another mutt from our humane society. Doing this has provided us with great happiness. My husband and I had been tentatively planning to go on a late honeymoon to Prague in December. Now that we have our dog Sasha, these plans are on hold. There are those who would judge us for putting these plans on hold.

We are choosing our priority here. For me, taking care of our new dog takes priority. We could have waited until after the trip to get a new dog, but we discussed it and decided waiting wasn’t something we wanted to do, and the trip could be postponed.

Honestly, travel stresses me out. I don’t like airports, I don’t like airplanes, I don’t like crowds or really big cities, as the two tend to go together, and at the end of a trip I am usually just desperate to get home. Staying at home and not traveling is much more appealing to me. Travel is a priority for some people, but it is just not something that is *super* important to me. I know that there is so much history and culture that I could be seeing, but I think there is value in staying at home and living your life quietly. Also, with the craziness of this year, living a quiet life for the last couple months of 2014 sounds pretty darn good.

There are many things about living a quiet life that are important to me.

Examples:

  • I find value in waking up every day and taking my dog for a long early morning walk, in all types of weather. I stomp through the puddles in my rain boots, bundle up in scarves, hats, mittens, and find great happiness and peace in those walks.
  • I find value in cooking healthy meals. Events in the past two years have led me to realize that your health is not something you take for granted, ever. I am not a very good cook, but I am definitely working on it, and that makes me happy.
  • I find value and peace in going to my weekly yoga class. I may make it to yoga more than once a week on occasion, but I schedule once weekly yoga to not put too much pressure on myself. I feel myself relaxing and letting go of any worries or troubles that have been plaguing me during the week.
  • I find value in learning about culture and different countries through watching videos and reading books. What a novel idea! (Ha ha, get it?)
  • I find value in enjoying the city where we live. It may not be a big city, it may not be a city that many people have heard of, but it is a city with a definite sense of community. Although I do not participate in the community as much as I would like, I know that I could, and I like living in a place where people care about what happens to the community.

The other thing that bothers me about people who judge those who don’t travel is this: travel is a luxury. Not everyone can afford it. I am lucky enough to have the means to be able to consider travel, but I don’t take that for granted and I certainly don’t think anyone is better than anyone else because they are ‘traveled’. For some people, travel is a priority. I respect that. Just for me it is not, and I reserve the right to be respected for that decision as well.

Quiet time at home is valuable, wonderful time. I am happy and know what makes me happy, and that is what matters.